Hi…
You know how … in the hallways you smile at acquaintances, or when you hold the door open for someone, you guys smile at each other to be polite and all. Ever do that in a car?
I was pulling into the gym (in my car) and a guy passed me in his car and smiled. It was really weird. I’ve never had that happen before. It wasn’t a creepy smile… just a polite one like if you passed someone on the street. I’ve never experienced that in a car before. Hmm… interesting.
I think the reason I like running and swimming is because it gets me out of my head.
Lately… well… this year… I’ve been wrestling with this problem. You see, I’ve been trying to get out of my comfort zone. Try new things, expose myself to social situations I normally wouldn’t enter into. That sort of thing. I guess i’ve always seen myself at fault for not entering new social situations. I’ll sit at home after declining an invitation and part of me is glad because I didn’t want to go and the other half is wondering what would have happen if I went and how much fun they might be having.
Recently, I was faced with such a situation again and instead of declining, I accepted. It was one of those things where, deep down, I knew it was going to turn out bad, but went in anyway. I figured, either i’d be happy by the end if it worked out, or have learned something.
Well… it turned out bad, but in a good way. I did learn something and I wasn’t at home wondering if it was going to be fun. After leaving, I was a lot more secure with who I was and what I wanted.
I know I’m being very vague… but bear with me.
One of my friends once told me that she was sick of the not-serious friendships and relationships. I used to think that … I would never say that. I was hungry for experiencing those not-serious friendships and relationships because I haven’t had many of those.
Basically, after this, I appreciated my real friendships more. People who care about you and who want something meaningful and to have fun. I think, because I tried this situation, I won’t worry about whether I could have fun any more or feel left out because I didn’t go. I am happy with my friends and don’t want to experience that situation again any time soon.
I asked myself… well… if you know how it turned out with the situation (realizing I want meaningful friendships), then why do you still want to have fling relationships?
I guess it’s the same reason that I had for going to the get together. I want to try it so that I will appreciate what I have more and not have to yearn for that in the future.
Kind of like.. I want to have a lot of relationships and experiences so that when the time comes to marry or make a big decision, I’ll won’t be wondering what it would be like if I tried something else instead of getting married or going through with the decision.
That’s not how it works for others. One of my friends is wikid happy with this guy and has no second thoughts. But with me… I have to try a lot to know I don’t need that and can be fully content with my decision.
Hmm..
I was in the gym sauna room today (after being in the hot tub). Mostly older guys were there. Talking about bikes. One said how he was so bored he just had been cleaning his bike for the last few weeks. …. This may sound very condescending, but I never want to be old like that in a sauna room and … just be like that.
I never want to lose that fire that seems to burn so brightly in youth. Hmm… I wonder when the point comes that you give up most your dreams and just surrender to the routine?
More thoughts later. I’m confused with my own thoughts for now. I can’t wait for the trip to china.