Love

It seems that everyone is searching for love, waiting for it, falling into it, and falling out of it these days.

Wedding and baby photos fly by as you scroll through your Facebook feed. The kind of events that define a life, whether for good or for bad.

Can you count the times that you said I love you, and didn’t really mean it? You can alway tell. There’s that feeling. It feels… like a lie. It makes you uncomfortable to say it.

The fairy tales told us that love is eternal. That when we’re in love, that it’s going to last forever. That’s what marriage is supposed to be, isn’t it?

Don’t mind all of the divorces and cheating that we’ll neatly sweep under the rug. Don’t mind all of those lies.

Love is not eternal. And neither is friendship.

When it comes to momentary connections with other human, nothing is.

A person is a changing, flowing state of emotions, thoughts, urges, and desires. An ever shifting landscape of values and principles.

You can fall into love. You can fall out of it. The only difference is your focus. What your mind is focused on.

Are you hooked on the way he makes you feel wanted, or appreciating his kind and caring nature?

Do you zero in on his flaws, or let yourself accept them?

Are you chasing love out of fear?

Love is a state that you feel. It’s how you feel about your life, and the people in it. It can be comfortably addictive.

Once you’ve felt the intimacy of a homey connection, you’ll crave it on every cold day.

Like a warm soup, it nourishes your soul and warms your bones.

People are fluid creatures. One day, what you most loved in her may not be as prominent.

Maybe they’re no longer full of energy, because they’re tired from their long work hours. Maybe they don’t make you feel excited anymore, because they don’t feel excited when with you.

True love is about being able to weather the good and the bad. To always be able to see kindness in another.

No matter what happens, to not be willing to stoop so low as to hurl insults, daggers, and spears.

It’s a loyalty to the fact that even when you’re not feeling love towards her, you will still make the effort to see her best qualities.

You are deluding yourself, because you know that feeling will come back. That feeling of being in love.

Love is not forever. It’s not easy. It takes work. It’s a commitment.

You have to be with someone who, even on the worst days, you can feel like it’s worth it. This journey that you’re on.

Basically,

She has to be hot enough to put up with.